Decoding Summer The Desi Way

Isn’t it funny that human heart craves for what is not with it and rather chooses to push aside the present gifts into oblivion? Don’t most of us start missing the chills of winters as soon as the Sun starts showing its might and on the contrary crave for the same warm Sun when chilly winters arrive?

It’s been over two months already when Delhi got its fair share of hot sun-kisses and soon we will be welcoming the showers…Well, they are already knocking with roaring thunderstorms pan North India. This Summer of 2018 had me introspecting about the reasons behind ever-rising mercury and how we have started to dread Summers, here in plains. The summer siestas had me all nostalgic of the good old days when our 80s lifestyle had us waiting anxiously for this season. A season with myriad hues of fun,frolic, laughter, reunions and everything bright and sunny!

I was reminiscing the good old summers of my childhood and somewhere in my heart I just made a promise to myself that I would really try my best to reveal the sheer magical Summer of 80s to this Gen-Z baby of mine!

And since, this year’s summer has already started fading, why not bid it adieu in our traditional Desi style and may be give a glimpse to our children what marvels next Summer holds for them!

So are you excited to decode SUMMER and have a ride back into your childhood??

S- for SPLASH SPLASH

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Summer and splashes are synonymous, don’t you think? As a kid I remember, our parents used to assign household tasks to us on rotation basis. Like for first week tasks like watering the plants, folding the sun-dried laundry and filling up the cooler were divided among we three sisters and then next week the tasks were rotated.

The one who got to water the garden was the happiest for obvious evening splashes. So, it became our ritual to play splash-gun with garden hose after watering the plants and we enjoyed it the most.

Today most of us might not have the luxury of big gardens but we can still dive into the pool, have a mini rubber pool in backyard or if nothing is available, just go desi and have a family rain-dance under the shower 😉 For all other lucky ones with gardens, resort to time-tested fun with garden hoses!! I can already hear the giggles and laughter 😊

U-for UNVEIL THE UNKNOWN

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Summers equals Vacations. Reminisce that lush greenery that used to be common in our times in our very own city. Alas, those times are no more and we have to actually move out of town if we wish to soak in nature.

So, how about ditching that trip to some foreign country and instead head to some place in Incredible India where Nature is in its full glory? Unveil the beauty and power of nature which is still unknown to your kids. The waterfalls, the oceans, the mountains, the trees, birds and animals living freely in the wild… Let them pick up those dried twigs and leaves and build up a souvenir of their own. Let them be lost in nature’s majesty…. Let their lungs brim with fresh air. Worried about these destinations being clad in garbage or trash?? Now, that’s a serious assignment for you to show them what damage we have done and discuss the solutions for it. And of course, there still are many beautiful places left in India and hence still some hope left.

M-for Mother Earth

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“Our very Being, Essence, Health and Happiness depend on Mother Earth”- David Suzuki

Mother Earth has already given much to us, we have rather taken much from her and it’s high time to give back. It’s so rightly said that we haven’t inherited this Earth from our ancestors, we have borrowed it from our children. So, if you have been able to show a glimpse of what damage we have done to our Mother, it’s a good time this Summer to workout small solutions with your kids. After all, each step counts! 🙂

Here are some pointers that we are practicing in our lifestyle-

->> Use desert coolers instead of AC in dry summers. Let the kids soak in that petrichor kind of divinity emanating from desert-cooler grass. Let them be out of their personal rooms and ACs and sit together in cooler and may be enjoy some board games or how about introducing kids to Antakshari and Dumbsherads? Meanwhile, explain them the benefits of using cooler over AC.

->> Bring home an earthen pitcher( ghada/surahi). I don’t think I need to elaborate its advantages over refrigerated water but still, here are a few-
A) Saving some percentage of electricity bill as no more ajar fridge-doors.

B) Saving environment to whatever little extent from global warming.

C) Saving our kids’ throat from turning sore due to their habit of drinking chilled water straight from the fridge.

D) Helping the small businessmen earn their living in whatever little way possible.

You can encourage kids to paint the pot and then use for drinking water from it. I am sure they would love it!

->>Plant some more trees, cultivate a home garden, reuse the RO water, reduce waste, keep water & food for birds are just some of the little gestures we can bring back from our times and inculcate in our Gen-Z.

Think of more desi ways that you can incorporate into your summer lifestyle to help revive our Mother Earth and don’t forget to share in comments. ☺️

M- for MUMMY KA MAGIC

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AAhhh.. remember those yummilicious simple Desi recipes straight from mumma’s kitchen – the mango pannah, bel ka sharbat, homemade rooh-afzah kulfi, fruit popsicles, chilled fruit custard….ummmm ! Mummy ka magic prevailed all through the summer right from homemade food to curbing our boredom by making tepees from her saarees – wasn’t our childhood so simple yet magically creative?

It’s time for role-reversal! Let’s ditch the aerated soft drinks and instead guide our kids to make their own summer-coolers and some indoor fun games in personal tepee made out of saaree and dupattas! Show them your magic!

E- for EXPLORE THE OUTDOOR

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Yeah, yeah- Outdoors is a NO in Summers, but tell me which parents have been successful in chaining their juniors inside four walls?? Our parents couldn’t do it nor can WE!

So, let them roll outside for a while, of course, when the blazen sun is a bit mellow in evenings. Take them to some lush green park if you can. The more kids, the more fun it is. Let them relive your childhood by monkeying around trees, jumping and hopping. Play outdoor hide and seek, hopscotch, dodge ball, chain chain, seven stones, kho-kho and whatever games you can remember playing when you were a kid.

It may seem hilarious to our juniors if you tell them that most of the fun in our times were during night time Power-Failures! We rushed to backyard or terrace with mats and bed-sheets… made our beds on floor and just lied down gazing at stars or singing random songs, making up ghost stories and what not!! Why not arrange a Star-Gazing Night Party on terrace for our kids, let them name their stars and have 80s fun !

And finally….

R- for REUNITE

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The best memories of my childhood summers is- going to Nani’s place and wreak a havoc there with alll my cousins! Gosh, those times..I can write another blog on that.

In today’s virtually connected world, we have lost almost all physical ties with our friends and family. We don’t have time to go meet them or call them over because of so many summer-camps our child has to attend, because of our pre-booked foreign vacations , work-commitments or because of several other important and not-so-important reasons.

Our children are not only deprived of the fun they can have with cousins and extended family but also a lifetime BOND. Don’t you think this also essential for our kids’ EQ? So, what are you waiting for… go get calling your cousins and friends along with their Bachcha-party and create some beautiful moments together 🙂

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HAVE A DELIGHTFUL DESI SUMMER PEEPS!!

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This post is a part of the blog train where 24 awe-inspiring bloggers, are going to share their story of ‘Summer’. Hop on the train to read some amazing blogs. This ‘Summer Blog Train’ is organized by Neha Sharma from Growing With Nemit .

I want to thank PRIYANKA who blogs at https://mommynshanaya.wordpress.comfor introducing me in her blog post. Now the train will move to the station of AMITOJ of Tryingtobesupermom Do show some love to her blog post as well.

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Letter to My Teen Self! 

My Dear TeenRAGEr,

As I write this sitting next to you, I just wish you could see what I see now. I wish I could show you the beautiful life you’ve made for yourself by conquering your inner demons.

I have known the pain you’ve been through when at times you think that noone understands you and nobody cares for you…not even your parents. I have seen you crying in the showers and also seen you smiling at your reveries. There are times when you want to soar high in your dreamland and reach upto zenith in all that you do but the chaos, confusion and self-doubt just drag you down to hell.

I am here today to tell you that whatever you think is going to stay forever, may actually not. And also, whatever you think is not possible now, may come as a surprise you not even think of. Sounds weird?? Well, mothers are weird, aren’t they? Oh yes, I forgot to tell you that I (that’s FUTURE YOU !!) am now a mother of a 6month old baby boy!! Gosh, and you thought you would never marry! Life has its own funny surprises, you see.

So, basically as a wise mother I want you to know that there are several points to ponder and things to take care of right now, i.e. in your teenage, so that you don’t mess up things and end up being a more satisfied, wise, happy ADULT!! Read on-

1. There’s no Love like Parent’s Love

As much as you feel like your parents are out to make your life miserable, when you look back, you will see the love in your parent’s hearts. They are just afraid you would make the wrong choices and want to protect you, not control you. Mummy says often, “You will only understand how I feel when you become a parent.” She is right. Thank you, Mom. I understand now. A mother wants to breathe her child’s air before he does to make sure it’s okay for him. Her heart yearns deeply for your success and happiness. Your father does too, but he probably doesn’t know how to express it. Your parent’s love teaches you how to become a parent.

2. Those school friends will be your biggest achievement and prized possession

You know your best friends that you spend so much time with? Several of them are still my best friends. Continue to nurture those relationships. You are exceptionally blessed to have those girls and boys in your life, both then and now. On the other hand, learn to gracefully let go of friendships that are not destined for Lifetime Status. Just because someone was your best friend at one point in time does not mean they always will be. Appreciate your time together and continue to make new friends.

3. Pursue your interests.

I know you’re this one girl who is just not into sports or dance or singing. All you have been doing is studies. But as they say, ” All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy”,  it goes pretty well for you too. See, I know you like reading books and writing what you feel, so go on, read as much as you can and write your heart out because that’s what will keep you up and fresh when you are bogged down by other things. Also, explore more music and art coz I know your secret love for them. Shed off that shyness. Shed off that stage fear. Trust me, nobody will judge you on your looks. You really have an exalted status out there!! Do it now or you will later regret not pursuing what you like the most.

4. You are pretty. Your body is beautiful and triumphant.

I pinched your nerve, didn’t I? This is the one most important thing you need to know. You are beautiful.  You never believed it and even today I too sometimes find it difficult to believe, but I now know that beauty lies in the eyes of beholder-it’s not just any other saying. It’s a beautiful fact. Those remarks about your skinny frame and your dusky complexion will vanish forever once you know the meaning of being beautiful. I know, you’ve always been known as the ugly duckling of the family and it causes a heartache that none can bear but still I would tell you again and again, Don’t let your confidence shake coz you think you don’t look good. Trash those face packs and beauty creams, coz they can never bring forth the beautiful girl you are.Your body does and will do amazing things. And yes, if you still think that love won’t find you coz of your looks, I would ask you to just wait and watch! You have no idea what wonderful man you’re going to own!!

5. Oh, that first love is not going to stay.

Hey, I know your secret attraction for that guy. Blatantly I would say, you are just torturing yourself by spending hours on messenger waiting for your crush to sign in. Yes, I would tell you to stop being in denial. That boy is just a crush, not your first love. As raw and rude it may sound to you, but the truth is he is not going to stay. No matter how many nights you spend crying and wetting your pillows, no matter how submissive you become for him…. he’s just not meant to be. Although it is painful right now, be grateful that the boy you like doesn’t like you back. You are growing up to marry the perfect man, so please spend your precious youth on more fulfilling and worthwhile pastimes. (see #2 and #3).

6. Life is not a pass through.

Each phase is temporary, but nonetheless shapes who you are and who you will become. Do not discount certain periods of life or wish them away. Understand that getting through one phase in life does not guarantee your struggles will be over: there will always be struggles, but you will grow more equipped to tackle them gracefully.

And now, I will just stop here as I know you don’t like big lectures on how to and what to.
You are a lovely girl and I know you just want to be better, do better, and be an inspiring woman. Rest assured, we(you and I) are continually working on it. Together.

Yours truly,
30-year old (mommy) self

This blog post is a part of #Womensdayblogparty .

 

Hell Yeah, I Love Being A Woman!

Being born and brought up in an Indian social strata where there were these illogical standards and norms set for females, I confess that in my young years I was not very proud of being a female. Color, demeanor, clothes, career, lifestyle…people had problem with every move of mine…they tried to dictate my life in whatever little ways they could. However, I am thankful to my stars that I was owned by my parents who have high regard for human race rising above the trivial criteria of gender, complexion and likes. They were strong-willed in raising their three daughters just like boys and had no apprehensions about our life-paths whatsoever. I would blame my ignorant self for succumbing to the pressure societal standards put on me in my teen years regarding my appearance or clothes or whatever.

My parents had hard time uplifting my confidence and the only things that made me outshine among the lots was my academic excellence and humble personality. I was my teachers’ favorite and friends’ darling. I was surrounded by all the angel/guardian souls and today when I have transformed into a woman of senses and have gathered wisdom through age, I can say that there’s no joy other than being a woman!!

Here, on this Women’s Day I try to jot down some perks I have started enjoying because of my gender which the male counterparts would die for-:

  1. DON’T HAVE TO BE ATLAS HOLDING THE GLOBE– Though as a woman I have to carry my fair share of intangible responsibilities which quite often feel like a BURDEN but when it comes to the tangible burdens of life, I enjoy being a woman. With my lean stature, more often than not I end up being helped by some gentlemen in carrying my luggage.I do not have to carry big heavy suitcases or bags and Yeah, I am self-sufficient but little favors didn’t hurt any. Also, I wonder if ATLAS was a woman, would the statue have male-hands in background supporting to hold the globe ??? Just asking!! 😛
  2. CAN CRY MY LUNGS OUT– Though I am personally one of the bathroom-sobbers kind …I really find it so relieving that women can shed buckets of tears even if they break their nail. Crying out yourself is so good for heart and may be that’s why we women have longer lifespans and lesser heart-attacks.https://i0.wp.com/confidenceandjoy.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/11/woman-crying.jpg
  3. ROAM AROUND IN 100 KGS OF MAKEUP AND STILL BE A DIVA- There have been times when that fiery red lipstick peeped from my purse in a hope of being adorned on my lips. But I had better friends like peaches and pinks. However, during wedding seasons, I can carry 10kgs of lehenga with half-a-kilo of foundation and powder on my face. Add to it another kg or two of gold jewellery and not to forget my FIERY RED LIPSTICK and still end up getting compliments. I really pity men, who will be questioned about their sexual orientation even if they dare to keep their hair a little longer or wear that fuschia shirt.https://hairstylemonkey.co.in/wp-content/uploads/2015/07/New-South-Indian-Wedding-hairstly-long-braid-with-jewellery.jpg
  4. NO ONE QUESTIONS MY SINCERITY AT WORKPLACE– Well, there have been times when I goofed up with some facts and figures and still my credibility was not questioned. Reason being most of the times I am just perfect in my work! Since females are in general more sincere, they have the liberty to get away with trivial malfunctions which otherwise would be taken seriously if committed by our male counterparts.
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  5. EXPRESS MYSELF WITHOUT BEING JUDGED– If something makes me sad, I can cry. If I am upset over my boy, I can gather my girlfriends and we can gossip and laugh together. If I see a lizard or cockroach, I can scream from the rooftops… no shame in feeling my emotions as they come. I don’t have to worry about being macho, I can fully embrace everything that happens to me! I can be just myself.Scared lady with bugs
  6. I CAN SURVIVE EVEN IF MAROONED– I know cooking, I know how to make my coffee, I know all the basic life-skills a person should know. And hence, even if I am left alone on an island… I can survive and never feel the urge to be provided for. May be I can go on and become the Jungle queen of that island. Our damn society however has marked the basic life-skills for females and that’s why I find many men go famished if their mothers, sisters or wives are not around!!! Oh man! I would never want that to happen with my son. Nopes.Image result for woman alone on island
  7. I CAN ESCAPE JAIL EVEN IF I DRIVE WRONG– I remember vividly, when initially I learnt driving my scooty, I used to confuse a lot between right and left hand. Many times I beeped the right indicator while I turned towards left. People and even some kind traffic cops could do nothing but shout “Madam, zara gaadi thik se chalao!! “ (Madam, please take care while you drive) Oooppss.Image result for rash driving woman
  8. SCIENCE BACKS UP MY “LANGUAGE GENE”– Women are notorious for talking and blabbering but what do we do…. after all, we have highly active Language Gene. It’s science dude, and not mere our habit that we talk so much. Blame it on our genetic disposition that we are such great communicators with a rich vocabulary!Related image
  9. I CAN GET AWAY WITH DOMESTIC VIOLENCEWomen get the last word in every argument. Anything a man says after that is start of a new argument. And although men are from Mars and women from Venus , sometimes the fury and rage resultant of that argument might make Venus go red…so much and so that females may resort to their weapons like rolling pin, sandals and other stuffs like that. In spite of being violent to such an extent, I can be free from the criminal angle and literally adding insult to injury, poor hubby may be mocked at for being thrashed by his wife!! 😉A Husband Beater
  10. SERIOUSLY HIGH TOLERANCE FOR PAIN– Hello Childbirth. Do I need to say more?Image result for labor painOf course, there are plenty other reasons to be proud of being the finest creation of God. But as for now, I guess these reasons are enough to make  men of the planet to crave “Agle Janam Mohe BITIYA Hee Keejo!!” (Let Me Be Born A Woman In Next Birth)

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    I hope you enjoyed reading this blog. If you’re game for more and want to read what I had to say to my younger self, then click here
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This blog post is a part of #Womensdayblogparty . I would like to thank Mandavi for introducing me. You can read her amazing post for this blog party here

Also, don’t forget to go to my friend Esha and read her perspective here

 

WHY I WANT TO RAISE MY BOY LIKE A GIRL?

If you too have been born and brought up in an Indian family set-up, you need no explanation of how even our daily practical chores have been divided based on gender. Since time immemorial, cooking, cleaning, laundry and other domestic fronts are designated for females and tasks involving physical strength, finances and decision-making have been allotted to males. Just or unjust? I don’t want to get into that debate but yes! ever since I have become a mother, I know in my head what practical lessons my son needs to learn, of course, irrespective of his gender!!

A mother-son bond is just overwhelming. It has been only a year since I held a cute little ball of life in my hands and shed tears of joy as his tiny hand curled up around my finger tightly. The sense of responsibility I felt was just as strong as the absolute love I felt for my baby boy. As the time passes on its own pace, that innate sense of duty makes me question myself every night – have I been a good mother today? In the sense, what have I taught my child that will help him become a better human, a good person, a man in the crowd of boys – someone who is not dependent on others to live, to live well.

Besides the emotional and non-tangible lessons, I feel there are a few practical things I need to teach my son which society would have expected from him, if he was a girl. Meh! So, let me just leave this boy-girl thing and call these life-skills which my kid should know –

 Cooking:

We live in a country where mothers tend to ply kids with food all the time. And pamper them with what they like. Paradoxically, the onus of the kitchen mostly relies on women – despite the fact that a lot of leading chefs are men. I have seen my MIL fretting over “Mera Beta Kya Khaega..kaise rahega” when she had to accompany me to hometown for my delivery. If men can feel hungry and want to eat, they must also be able to cook. Makes sense, right? The gender bias that exists in terms of only women having the responsibility of cooking irks me. More importantly, in today’s day and age, it is redundant. I need to teach cooking to my son so that if I am late at work, he won’t remain hungry and can feed himself. This also means he can survive all by himself if he is away from home when he grows up. Rather basic. Also, let’s just face it, there is something special about a man who can cook his own meals.

 Keeping things tidy:

Thankfully, this trait exists in my husband and he takes care of the cleanliness at home just as I would do.  However, I have seen ladies shrugging off the mess created by their SONS just because they are boys. General response- “Ab ladke sunte hi kaha hain, unka to kaam hi ganda karna hai”  Ugh!! House strewn with shoes, clothes and stuffs is an absolute NO for me. I confess that lately my home is a bit messed up, given that bub is only 12 months of age. But, his being a BOY would never come in way of teaching him the importance of a tidy surrounding.

 Money Matters:

In an era of single kids, we tend to spoil them by giving them whatever they wish for. No wonder, they fail to know the worth of money. Though there’s still some time left for my bub to get trained in finances but still there are little things which I would follow which my parents did to me.  I was taken out shopping with them – whether it is for groceries or other stuff. They made sure that I counted the money given by them at the cash counter and check the change or balance we got back. In addition, apart from the fixed monthly pocket-money of Rupees Five, I used to get some payment done for extra work assigned like painting the garden pots, washing Papa’s scooter. All this added up to be my savings which I could use for buying my fancied items, if any.

 Respect for fellow beings:

I have always believed that respect is earned- through your deeds. I will make sure that my kid respects all his fellow beings- irrespective of gender, age etc. He should know that he has got no right, whatsoever, to hurt any soul. There is already enough hate prevailing and we just can not afford to pass it on to next generation. The world needs to be smeared with love and respect and my baby should definitely be one of the peace-mongers.

Like all mothers, I love my son so much. I want him to be the best man he can be.  Not for me but for him, his future family and the world in general. My son needs to know that if he wants to be the head of his household, he jolly well should deserve to be there. The responsibilities will prepare him to be able to lead his household, and it won’t happen simply because he is a man.

 

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Pregnant And Hungry??

First of all Many Congratulations for entering a realm which is full of myriad emotions!! I can vouch that the chaos, confusion, excitement, happiness, bliss all the feelings bombing inside your hearts will make this journey worth remembering!!

Now, since you’ve landed upon this article, it certainly means you are baffled about what to eat and what to avoid during pregnancy. Is your mom’s, aunt’s or neighbor’s differing advice for the best pregnancy foods making you all the more perplexed? If this sounds like you, then this post my friend, is dedicated to you!

What you eat during pregnancy will play a crucial role in your unborn baby’s growth, development and health. It is important to eat right in these special months, and it can be difficult to keep a track of what you should eat so that your baby gets the right nutrition.

Eating right and healthy is always important but it’s only during pregnancy that we realize it’s worth. No one food group can provide your unborn baby and you with the nutrition that you need during these months. If you have been eating well till now, you are most likely on the right path already. However, if your diet was poor till now, or you were not including all nutrition groups in your everyday diet, you will have to make some changes.

The beauty of Indian diet is that it is rich in all the nutritional requirements that both you and your baby need during the pregnancy months. It will help you gain the right amount of weight and will also provide your body the energy it needs to help support your baby as well as keep you healthy and fit and in good shape for the delivery.

Here’s a look at some easy Peasy dishes that should constitute your diet chart.

How To Spread Out Your Diet Through The Day:

To make sure that what you eat helps your body and also helps you stay interested, spread out your food through the day by following different food ideas.

While you are pregnant, it is important to make sure that you first check about anything that you eat or drink with your doctor. Even though the suggested foods are considered healthy, your doctor will be the best person to assess your overall health and give you the go-ahead. Once you have a confirmation, here is how you can spread out the meal plan through the day:

1. Early morning Snack:

A glass of plain cow’s milk

Almond milk

Milkshake

Apple juice

Tomato juice

Dry fruits

 

2. Breakfast:

Bowl of fruits

Wheat rava upma with lots of vegetables

Poha with lots of vegetables

Oats porridge

Whole wheat toast with butter and omelet

Vegetable omelet

Paranthas with fillings of spinach, dal, potatoes, carrots, beans, cottage cheese, cheese with curd

Mixed bean cutlet or patties

Some fruits to go along with the breakfast such as apricots, dates, sweet fig, banana, oranges

Cheese toast or cheese and vegetable sandwich

Rice sevai with lots of vegetables

Besan /Ragi /Rava Chilla with veggies

Broken wheat porridge

Vegetable idlis

 

3. Mid-Morning Snack:

Tomato soup

Spinach soup

Creamy spinach soup

Carrot and beet soup

Chicken soup

 

4. Lunch:

Roti with choice of dal, vegetable and a bowl of curd

Parantha with dal and a bowl of curd

Carrot and peas parantha with a bowl of curd and some butter

Jeera or pea rice with raita

Rice, dal and vegetable with vegetable salad

Lemon rice with peas and some vegetable salad

Vegetable khichdi

Chicken salad with lots of fresh vegetables or vegetable soup

Chicken curry with rice

Grilled chicken with a bowl of curd

Rice, dal, mint raita and a fruit

Kofta curry with rice

Cottage cheese parantha with butter and vegetable salad

Curd rice

Parantha with sprouted beans salad

 

5. Evening Snack:

Cheese and corn sandwich

Vegetable idli

Spinach and tomato idli

Sevaiya with lots of vegetables

Carrot or lauki halwa

Fruit smoothie with fresh fruits such as banana or strawberry

Roasted peanut mixture with vegetables

Bread -veggies cutlet

Chicken cutlet

Chicken sandwich

Chicken soup

A bowl of dried dates or dry fruits

A cup of green tea

Milk porridge with oats, sevai or daliya

Vegetable daliya

Mixed vegetable uttapam

 

6. Dinner:

Rice with dal, spinach vegetable, and some green salad

Roti with a bowl of dal, a vegetable of choice and a glass of buttermilk

Mixed dal khichdi with a vegetable curry and a bowl of curd

Vegetable pulaoor chicken rice with a bowl of yogurt

Plain parantha with a glass of buttermilk

 

Is It Important To Add Any Supplements To Your Indian Pregnancy Diet?

Your doctor will tell you whether or not you need to add any supplements to your diet while you are pregnant. Here are a few conditions in which your doctor may feel you would need a supplement, so make sure that you discuss it with your doctor:

If you are too nauseous, it can be difficult for you to eat properly, especially in the first trimester. Your doctor may suggest that you go for a mineral and vitamin supplement along with your regular food, as it will help to give you the minerals and vitamins that are important during pregnancy.

If you are a vegetarian or follow any other dietary restrictions due to religious or other reasons, you may be at the risk of contracting some nutritional deficiency. Speak to your doctor about the same to see if you need some supplements.

One supplement that you will be asked to take while you are pregnant is folic acid. Taking a folic acid supplement while you are pregnant will help prevent various birth defects in your unborn baby, especially neural tube birth defects such as spina bifida. Your doctor will most likely prescribe you a folic acid supplement only after you are 12 weeks pregnant.

In addition to folic acid supplements, your doctor will also prescribe you some iron supplements. Taking an iron supplement will make sure that your body gets the right amount of blood, and you are not deficient in your energy levels. Your doctor will regularly check your iron levels at each appointment to check the dosage of iron supplements that you need.

Your doctor may also advise you about supplements depending on your medical condition, such as if you are suffering from diabetes, have anemia or have a history of pregnancy complications from earlier pregnancies.

 

A Few Tips To Remember While Eating During Your Pregnancy:

Keeping a check on what you eat while you are pregnant is as important as understanding how you should eat it.

Here are a few tips that will be of help, especially while you are pregnant:

No matter what you want to eat, ensure you consult your doctor first. Something that is healthy for someone else who is pregnant may not be as safe or healthy for you. Your doctor will assess your medical condition and advise you accordingly.

If you feel uncomfortable after eating something, or notice any rashes or redness on your face or skin, make a note of what you ate and keep it with you. Avoid eating it again and speak to your doctor about it.

Do not give up on oil, ghee or butter for the fear of gaining excess weight. A little amount of fat is important for both you and your baby and you should have some each day while you are pregnant. If you are overweight, speak to your doctor about how much fat you can safely include in your diet.

Make sure to have some amount of dry fruits in your everyday diet.

Use salt in moderation, as having too much salt will make your body retain more water, which can further increase your swelling while you are pregnant.

Add fruits to your everyday diet as your body will need the natural sugars that are present in fruits. Avoid eating too much sugar otherwise.

Try to eat at home as much as you can and have fresh homemade food to avoid the risk of infection.

Avoid eating pre-packaged heat-and-eat meals as these are heavily processed and are not a good food choice while you are pregnant.

If you are going to eat outside, check the ingredients that will be used in whatever meal you are ordering. It will help you identify food items that you are allergic to or that your doctor has asked you to avoid eating while you are pregnant.

Make sure that while you are eating out, you choose a place that is clean and hygienic and you have food there before. If you want to eat out at a new place, avoid ordering anything exotic, especially if you are not sure about their kitchen and their overall food quality.

Do not stay hungry and make sure to eat something or the other after every two hours or so, even if you do not feel hungry. While you are pregnant, you will tend to feel nauseous and may not want to eat at all. However, it is important that you keep eating something, especially if you have vomited, as otherwise you have the risk of getting dehydrated. Keep replenishing your body with liquids such as soups, fresh fruit juices or milkshakes.

To avoid feeling bloated or too full and avoid any nausea attacks, space out your meals to six or seven meal times in the day. Keep the food portions to small portions at each meal time instead of having very big ones.

Do not try to cut down on food while you are pregnant, thinking that it will help you lose weight later. If you eat right and include the right balance of nutrients in your daily diet while you are pregnant, it will help you reduce the baby fat later with much ease.

An Indian diet for pregnant women is rich in all the food groups that will help you be healthy and fat and will also provide your unborn baby with the right amount of nutrition. Make sure you speak to your doctor and plan accordingly.

Hoping this guide will help you enjoy this beautiful journey without staying hungry! 😝😝

If you found this post to be of help do share it with your preggy-gang.

Happy Eating 😊

THE DARK ALLY

SHE came into my life when as a child I developed an aversion for all things white… White dress, white skin tone, white MILK. May be because in India, the Whites tend to overshadow the Darks in every walk of life, so much and so, that the very beauty of dark fades into oblivion.

SHE was also dark with a hint of bitterness and so was I (I still am). Everyone forbade me as a child not to have her company citing that SHE would make me darker. May be this was the reason I was drawn more towards her. There is some sort of ecstasy in exploring the forbidden…Isn’t it? 

As I grew older, the proscriptions ruled out slowly and my family (who by now accepted my darkness) were less bothered about me getting darker.  I have seen my father waking up early in the morning and bringing HER to stir us up! My father is the man who taught me the ways to spice up  HER grandeur.

By the time I treaded life and entered college, the love for her turned into addiction. I needed her all the time…Sometimes there were reasons like completing assignments, survive boring lectures, late night studies and sometimes there was no reason at all. SHE was just an urge away for me.

Also on some solitary nights when life gave reasons to mull over it’s depth, SHE was there with me in my musings….Her aroma was enough to unlock the deep thoughts and together we devised our own philosophies of life.

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SHE reigned in winters. SHE was indispensable. SHE was there for me with her warmth and I never needed a room heater. I have the most beautiful memories in life  from the times when I used to stay alone in Delhi at my apartment. My childhood BEStie moved in with me during winters and one more very dear friend of mine used to come for staycation from Karnal every other weekend. We had a gusto, relishing  our midnight chat-sessions, late night Netflix and SHE was definitely there adding to the bliss!!

That rafting-trip to Rishikesh, those aimless conversation turning into deep debates, those visits to roadside tapri near college, that night under the stars, those snuggles with my better half…. all alluring moments that are etched in my heart forever have one thing in common- SHE!

Such is her aura, that once a lover will always be her lover. Thankfully, my family and friends all drooled over her and no one ever interfered in our blissful togetherness. Sometimes even they offered to hop on and relish the times together. Those are some beautiful times to cherish!!

And then the time came when I was married off to the most wonderful man I could ever meet. SHE , however, was still there… That inexplicable feeling when in early mornings both my loves entered the room and both of them lent their warmth on my lips and woke me up to a reality more dreamy than the dream itself.

Aah! How I miss those times…When no reasons, no logic, no constraints blocked my way in being with her.

And now, when I am shackled in regimes…when I am donning the roles of mother, wife and daughter-in-law…I barely get time to sit in peace with her…indulge with her..have my soliloquy!!

Still, SHE never fails to give me that instant kick when I need it the most. SHE has been such a loyal soul that no matter how less time I get to bask in her glory, still SHE never disappoints me with her magical dark hue, her tantalizing taste and her exotic aroma!! The dark elixir of my life- my CHAI!!

My dark twin soul,

My ally when life seems a lie, 

My chum for gloom and joy,

It’s none other, but, MY CUPPA CHAI !!

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This blog is a part of the Chai-a-thon blog train organized by ‘The Momsteins’

I would like to thank Sweety Patelia – https://chinkslounge.wordpress.comfor introducing me.

I would also recommend you to check out my fellow blogger and friend, Jasmeet’s blog- http://jazzharman1508.blogspot.in  and read about her wonderful tea memory.

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Preparing for Baby’s Arrival? 

 

It seems as if yesterday that I used to surf blogs and articles about how-to, what-to and what-not-to during and after pregnancy. The bouts of emotions and anxiety leaves the moms-to-be in stress all the more when they are advised to abstain from it. There are a million things that need attention as soon as you discover that you’re about to bring a new life on this planet. You want to leave no stone unturned in this journey and arrange the best of the things for your soon-to-arrive little angel.

As a first time mother, it was very overwhelming when we realized that a baby needs so many things. But when we saw the many, many lists out there we realized that we don’t need to buy ALL of those things before the baby comes. If we just bought the most essential items, we could get every thing else as and when we need it. Most of the families believe in NOT buying baby essentials before the baby actually comes due to traditional beliefs. Same was the case with my family but with my personal experience I would suggest to be prepared with some basic important items that are needed in the first few days of baby arrival because you should not expect your relatives to give you those items and also you will not be in a state to do away with those essentials as well !

In the last four weeks of my pregnancy, my husband and I got our house baby-ready (coming soon) and stocked up on some of the essential supplies we would need when the baby arrived.

As a pro tip now, I would definitely recommend the moms-to-be to go for online shopping to save you the hassle of visiting umpteen stores for that perfect deal. You surely have variety of things to choose from with fine quality and the best thing is that all the goodies are delivered at your doorstep. If still in any case you want to explore the market streets yourself, there’s no stopping you!!

So here’s a list of things we bought (and some I think you should add to your list) before the baby came. The items listed here are embedded with a link which would redirect you to e-commerce website for ease in your shopping spree. If you’re lucky you might end up in getting some awesome online deals as festive season is round the corner and e-retailers do offer some attractive offers!! So, let’s get started-:

FOR THE BABY

  1. Clothes

We got a lot of hand-me-downs from friends and family and that saved us a lot of money on baby clothes. But when you buy clothes, list out what the weather in your city be like and baby’s age. Buy newborn clothes accordingly and don’t be tempted to stock on a lot coz babies tend to outgrow the clothes superquick.

In most of the families, people end up getting many clothes as gifts also so you basically might be needing baby nappies  to buy yourself and your relatives will take care of the most of the things.

You can never go wrong with onesies, so stock up on 6-8 of them at least. In addition, you can get pyjama sets (top & bottom), sleep suits (covered feet and hands for when it’s cold at night), caps, socks.

We bought mittens too but could not make baby keep them on for more than a few minutes so I recommend that you don’t waste money on them. Plus I read that mittens actually hinder sensory development, and it is better to let babies get to feel their face and other things with their hands without the mittens blocking them.

  1. Diapers and diaper bag 

We stocked up on at least a month’s supply of diapers and baby wipes. However, if you want to go traditional way of using cloth nappies you should be prepared to change baby’s clothes and the sheet under her every time she pees or poops (which is very often during those first few days because newborns pee and poop round the clock.) If you plan to cloth diaper or use nappies, you may need at least 8-10 each day.  So depending on your laundry schedule, buy nappies/cloth diapers accordingly. Also, if you plan to use nappies, consider getting more blankets and onesies and other clothing too. Also a diaper bag which is a quintessential item, needs to be prepared before the baby arrives because after discharging from hospital you will need to revisit your gyane within a week or so for baby’s progress n yours too. Diaper bag becomes handy with all the baby essentials in it.

  1. Bedding
  • If you plan to co-sleep, you won’t need more than 2-3 blankets, quick dry sheet, baby foldable bed with a net (if there are mosquitoes where you live.)
  • If you plan to use a baby crib, you will need, in addition to the above, crib, crib sheets, net.

You can skip pillows, bolsters, crib bumpers, and decorative pillows because it is usually advised to keep the baby’s crib clutter-free. If you want a pillow, consider getting one filled with mustard seeds as that usually takes the shape of baby’s head. I also used that horse-shoe shaped pillow or some 10-15days but kept it away as soon as I came to know about its ill-effects. 

  1. Toys & other items – To keep newborns engaged and entertained you can get

*Babies can entertain themselves with the other toys but you will have to shake the rattle before them.

5. One pack of Formula Milk and feeding bottles– 

Though every mother wants to breastfeed her baby right from the time of delivery till as long as she can but there may be times when you are unable to do so. Especially when mothers who undergo C-section quite often complain of not lactating properly, Formula milk comes handy as an SOS. You can talk to your gynae before hand about the brand you wish to buy (I used Nan Pro1). Buy a feeding bottle as well for this purpose.

6. Other Utilities –

Other things we got were: burp cloths, hooded towels, swaddle cloths (however, swaddling didn’t work for my wriggly baby) , baby oil, shampoo, baby wash (I used Mama Earth products and still continuing it), moisturiser, detergent, nappy cream, nail clippers, hair brush, hand sanitizer. 

Things to keep in mind:

  •  It’s always a good idea to let older family members like your mother or grandmother or mother-in-law to massage the baby if you aren’t up for it yet.
  • Watch videos on how to breastfeed and how to ensure deep latch. This will save you a lot of pain and confusion later on.
  • BONUS TIP: Many families have a tradition where the parents of mom-to-be gift the baby essentials including clothes, toys etc.  In that case you can ask your parents/relatives to check the stuff online and get it with no hassle. Also, if they live in a different city than yours, they can get the stuff delivered to you directly! Isn’t that a win-win for all of us? 🙂 

FOR MOMS-TO-BE

  • Post Partum Essentials – Sanitary Pads, comfy pillow, a cook, cleaner, and a 24-hour personal attendant for the first 18 years. 😜
  • Nursing Essentials – nursing bras, nursing-friendly dresses/tops, nursing pads, nursing pillow, breast pump (if you may need)
  • Sanity Essentials – Baby Carrier. I wish I had known about it earlier. It is a life saver! Especially during days when baby will only sleep in your arms. I did not get a chance to babywear but in my recent researches about it I found that baby-carriers provide support for a tiny new born’s neck too. This would really come in handy during sleep regressions of baby.

FOR MEMORY KEEPING 

This journey you are embarking upon is going to be the most wonderful one and you would definitely want to document your life. So if you plan to do that, you might consider looking for and sourcing milestone cards and/or stickers, cute photo props that you can use in your pictures, a baby book where you can stick pictures and make notes, etc.

INTERNET RESOURCES THAT YOU MAY FIND USEFUL

Here are a few Facebook Groups that helped me in those early days. Its not necessary to ask questions but you can learn a lot by going through posts and discussions.

    • Breastfeeding Support for Indian Mother
    • Apps like BabyCenter, The Bump, and What to Expect not only give you weekly pregnancy updates, but also give you weekly baby updates. You will also find relevant articles shared with you on a weekly basis depending on the age of your baby.

That’s all for now. It is important to remember that this is a list of the bare minimum essentials you may need before baby arrives. Depending on your budget and lifestyle you may want to purchase fewer or more items. All the Best!

Wish you the most blissful times ahead! ☺️

 

Relishing the flavors life has to offer

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